When things get tough, what do you do? Sometimes its easy to say in bed and put your head under the covers. Heck, we’ve probably done that along the way. But while your head is under that pillow, you’ll still hear the horn of the train that goes by, the acceleration of the engine from the garbage man who will still pick up the trash on Monday morning, and the clanks of the mailbox as the mailman locks the boxes.
Life goes on, even when it might be challenging for us.
As an educator, we often talk about how we help students build resilience. As Gen Z and millennials who are accustomed to things being easy, its hard to create scenarios to increase their ability to be flexible and stick through the struggles.
But as adults, how are we in our own responsiveness to the challenges that we face?
Resilience can be learned. And this is a good thing, because becoming stronger in our stick-to-itness means we can bounce back more quickly, stay low for a shorter period of time, and see struggles as an opportunity to grow and be more positive. And that positivity can assist others in their resilience as well.
One of the best approaches I’ve found to building resilience is to support others when they are going through hard times. If they’ve lost a family member or aren’t entirely happy in their work, or even if they have been hit by a setback that seems insurmountable, being that daily stalwart of strength really does help me become more resilient. And while I’m not entirely sure why it works like that, I’ll take it.
On the eve of Michelle Obama’s book release, I watched her interviewed by Robin Roberts on ABC last night. What I loved was the refreshing approach she shared about her struggles with infertility treatment. I’ve never been quiet about my own challenges in that area that led to the birth of my twins after more than two years of medical intervention. Once my daughters were born, fate brought me many women who faced the same obstacle. My role? To provide ongoing support because I had been in their shoes. The shots and emotional rollercoaster wasn’t easy for me, but knowing I could empathize with others going through it strengthened my resolve…and theirs.
And that makes a huge difference in resilience, both mine and theirs.
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This week’s article is a direct connection to today’s theme. I love when research provides more information about what I already knew. For example, it makes sense that being resilient helps you thrive and leads to being healthier. On the surface, I think this is obvious. This article explains more about why this is true. Take a few minutes and scan it.
Take a look and read it HERE.
The topic of this TED Talk is about resilience and how it can help to overcome trauma. The speaker in this talk is about happiness, success, and overcoming obstacles. And what Charles Hunt shares here in this 14 minute video makes sense. Is that enough of a teaser for you?
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Can you print these and share them? Notes to colleagues on key topics like resilience and survival can make a difference. Print in color on cardstock …. practically free! Here are a couple to consider…. and to give frequently. It’s up to us to remind others that struggles happen to all of us, but its about our response to them that makes the difference.
Now go slay yet another week!